Dear Allison,
Wow! high school! I feel so old! Allie you’re my girl we have spent a lot of time together during your life and I wouldn’t change that for the world. I’m hoping we spend a lot of time together again very soon. I miss you a whole hell of a lot. You give my life meaning and help give me motivation to do good for myself so I can be a great mom for you. I wanted to write a letter to you for your first day of this new chapter of your life, but I wasn’t sure what to say. So, I looked online to see what some other moms had wrote to there baby girls before there first days of high school. I picked out the best advice from those letters. Things I think are important for you to here before embarking on this adventure girly. Here goes.
BE BRAVE! I know that a new school, and one with lots of new people in it, can be intimidating and even scary. You’ve got this, and you will be awesome. Remember that being brave also means taking chances. Every single day brings new opportunities to be brave. That could be inviting someone you don’t know to sit with you at lunch or standing up for a classmate other are picking on or talking to the teacher who scares you about something you don’t understand. Do all of that. Being brave means being yourself. Be confident. Decide what you like about yourself, don’t let other people or social media do that for you. Find friends who love you exactly as you are but who also inspire you to be better. And sometimes being brave means opting out when everyone else is opting in. I know you have the reservoir of courage you need for such situations. Go to it when you need. Jiminy Cricket was right – always let your conscience be your guide.
Some days will be ridiculously fun and exciting. Some will be crappy. And that’s ok. Enjoy the journey. Embrace the challenges. Revel in the laughter. Look for silver linings. It’s a marathon, not a sprint. Accept yourself for who you are. Flaws and all. Be true to yourself. Be authentic. Be you. You might wonder what “being you” means. Not an easy thing to figure out. Develop your own ideas, your own definition of success. Do not change for others. Your identity is so much more than your gender, your religion, your body, your ethnicity, your looks. Try not to compare yourself to others. Each person is unique. We come in all shapes and sizes. We all excel in different things. You are beautiful, intelligent and worth it. Friends should wish you well. They should make you feel better about yourself. Have close friends but don’t be afraid to part ways with some. People change. Be the kind of friend you’d want. Be reliable. Be open. Be kind. Do not wallow in self-pity. It’s ok to have bad days, sad days, days where you need to complain but try to shake it off and find what makes you smile. Smiles are contagious. Especially yours.
I know you with Zac right now and who knows you might be for all four years of high school. Just make sure he or any other boyfriend you may have likes you for who you are. If they make you feel bad about yourself in any way or want you to change, they’re not the one NO MATTER HOW CUTE THEY MAY BE. People that are cute on the outside aren’t always cute on the inside. Character counts. Go with your instincts. Find someone who feels like they got the better end of the deal. Be attracted to a sense of humor and a brain. These people will make you laugh when you need it the most. They’ll grow up to cure diseases, write books, and program computers. They will be interesting. Interesting isn’t just cute. It’s hot. Also remember You decide what to do with your body. YOU. Only You. Speak up if someone ever tries to push the boundaries or makes you feel uncomfortable.
DON’T BE AFRAID TO FAIL! Please try new things. Look at high school as a chance to explore and expand your horizons. Don’t just focus on what you already like and are good at. Give some new activities a shot to see if you like and are good at them, too. Trust me, there is no better time in life than high school to try out an activity that seems fun or interesting to you.
DO TAKE SCHOOL SERIOUSLY, BUT DON’T TAKE YOUR SELF TOO SERIOUSLY! The world is far more fun when you can laugh at yourself. (And it will make the failure much easier to handle, too.) It is possible to laugh at yourself and be a serious student. I don’t only want you to get good grades. I want you to learn, to think independently, to challenge yourself, to know that your teachers are eager to help you and to let them do that. I want you to do your best and try your hardest.
Know you can always come to me! No matter how old you are, you’ll always be my baby. You are loved more than you know. I am here to help you. While I won’t always be able or willing to fix your problems, I will always be happy to listen and give you love and support as you figure out solutions. You can use me as your excuse when you need to get out of situations or don’t know how to say “no.” You can call me any time for a ride, no questions asked.
ALWAYS BE KIND! I have been proud of you every single day I’ve been privileged to be your mom, but never more so than when I see you use that big heart of yours to be kind to others. I can’t wait to see all the ways you make me proud in the coming four years. I’m here for your 100 percent 100 percent of the time. And I love you Allie. I’m always just a phone call and a short drive away. Call me often know I’ve been there and my baby girl forever.
Love,
Mom

Sat and cryed my eyes out when there dad sent me this picture and another one of all 3 of my babies,à all on there first day of school. A new school for all of them. They just moved in with there dad’s new girlfriend. Which hurts. But, it hurt so much more the fact that I couldn’t be with my babies on there first day of school. Something I have been there for every year except the past 3. Which is a lot! I just want to be able to have my kids in my life so much more cause not having them is killing me. Going to court in the morning to file for more visitation. Keep your fingers crossed for me please! Hopefully all will turn out in the best interest of my kids , and I think that would be there mother and there father eventually, once I get my life together , both having them an equal amount of time. Alright, enough rambling. Thanks for reading!